I get it though, even if only 1% of men react violently to direct rejection, it makes sense to be careful. Not a lottery you want to play.
So much of dating dynamic feels like it’s just been ruined by a few assholes, and the internet giving those assholes more reach only exacerbates it.
With the amount of random attention from men women get, the rate doesn’t have to be very high for it to be regular, particularly when you add selection bias that people who react like that are probably more likely to approach someone in the first place.
And while I would agree it’s probably higher than 1%, 1% really sounds lower than it is - that would be 40 million people globally. If it’s 5% it’s 200 million and there are still almost 4 billion that are completely normal.
The sad reality is that it just doesn’t take high numbers for that kind of experience to be a regular occurence.